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A Different View

Imagine putting on a special pair of glasses—ones that make you see people in a more honest way. Each time you put them on, words appear revealing a secret about the person in your view. You glance over at the man in the coffee house and you see the words, “Struggles with addiction.” You notice an old woman on a park bench and read, “Nobody calls anymore.” A pretty young girl walks by and you’re stunned to see that she, “Thinks she’s ugly and wants to kill herself.” The truth is, no one knows what each of us struggles with. No one knows the full story. For more than 20 years, if someone had those special glasses and looked at …

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I DON’T CARE ANYMORE

Something weird is happening to me as I approach the 50th anniversary of my birth: I don’t care anymore, and it’s wonderful. I’ll explain. The day after the horrific police shootings in Dallas, I approached a young, black co-worker and asked him what he thinks is happening in this country. I asked him what he thinks of racism, the media and the protests. I got an earful. In just a few short minutes, he explained his experiences. In his voice I heard pain, conviction, and surprising truths that challenged a few stereotypes ingrained in me. When I was younger, this conversation would have never taken place. I would have been too afraid to ask. But I don’t care anymore. A …

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Why We Watch

It seems every week there’s a new video that goes viral and captures our hearts. The joyous “Chewbacca Mom.” The girl who received a doll with a prosthetic leg just like hers. The boy caught on surveillance video sneaking into a neighbor’s garage not to steal something valuable, but rather to hug a dog. These viral vids come and go like a meteor streaking across the sky, leaving a glowing trail in their wake. We laugh, we cry and we share them with each other. Why? What is it about these captured moments that grab hold of us so tightly if only for a few moments? I think I know the answer. I believe it says a lot about how …

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Mom’s Still Here

Her heart still beats. I hear it from inside. At thirty-three years old, in a most sudden and shocking way, my friend Ellen faced a new reality: Life without her mom. January 6, 2002 was a Sunday pretty much like any other, aside from the cranberry juice Joanne accidentally spilled on her Sunday best, changing her plans to go to church with her husband. Instead, they headed out a little earlier than expected to visit family, hopping on Interstate 4 in Florida just as they’ve done countless times before. Only this time, life would take a tragic turn. On the other side of the highway, a man driving a van clipped the car next to him, lost control, crossed the …

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Stuck

Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. ~ Soren Kierkegaard We’ve all been there. The wheels carrying us along on life’s road suddenly sink into the thickness of it all. Gradually – and all at once – we’re spinning, but we’re not going anywhere. We’re stuck. Know what I mean? Every day is just a day. And nothing ever happens. This used to frustrate me. I wanted to go and go FAST! I hit the gas harder, spun the wheels faster, became angry and banged my head against the steering wheel. It never helped. It only dug me in deeper. Today, I’m a little wiser. When I find myself in a season of stuck, I …