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Clear The Runway

On an unseasonably warm night last October, I sat up with my ninety-four-year-old father-in-law at his Northern Michigan home. The window next to my chair was cracked open just enough where Dad wouldn’t question me about it. His health had slowly deteriorated over the past year and it was not easy to watch him struggle with everyday tasks. He was a fit, proud and ruggedly handsome man who still had a full head of thick, silver hair. He was seated sideways on the adjustable bed that was recently placed in the living room in front of the fireplace. I was exhausted from the thirteen-hour drive to come and see him, but it was clear he wasn’t about to sleep. He …

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The Rope

Our job is to prepare our kids to live their own lives. ~ Dr. Meg Meeker My boss gave each of his daughters ropes when they left for college. Yes, actual ropes. Growing up, the analogy of the rope was explained to them this way: As your parents, we’re holding one end of the rope and you’re tied to the other end. When you prove you can make smart decisions and be trustworthy, you will be given more and more rope. If, on the other hand, you lie to us or do something stupid, we’ll pull the rope in leaving you with less slack. This is where my wife and I find ourselves today – giving our sixteen-year-old girls rope. …

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I’ve Noticed Something

A life with love is a life that’s been lived. ~ Ed Sheeran I’ve noticed something… The world looks different than it did just five years ago; it’s meaner. But I don’t need to tell you that. You can see it. You can feel it. But I’ve noticed something… We don’t like it very much and we’re trying to escape it. The #1 new show on TV is NBC’s “This Is Us.” The characters are both relatable and believable and the topics couldn’t be more true to life. People really do die from cancer, struggle with weight, regret and guilt. People really do suffer from depression and anxiety. People really don’t have perfect families. And people really do forgive. People …

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Chosen

Many are called, but few are chosen. ~ Matthew 22:14 Few kids were smaller than me in middle school. I was short, scrawny and weak. Gym class was humiliating. I was painfully aware, especially in the showers, that I was a boy among men. And when it came time to pick teams, I was the kid no one wanted. Even the gym teacher smirked and shook his head because he knew I couldn’t help anyone win. But that was then. Did you know God chooses people? The ultimate team captain is assembling His team. You have to decide. I can tell you that it’s good to be chosen. It’s even better to accept the invitation. Years after middle school, on …

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The Unwanted Guest

Life is staggering and we’re just used to it. ~ Donald Miller For the first time in my life, I sat down with pen and paper and I wrote out six goals for the new year. Not resolutions; goals. Among them, to worry less and pray more. As long as I can remember, worry has been the unwanted house guest — the out-of-work brother-in-law who shows up at the front door with far too many suit cases for a short stay. Worry moved in without my permission and it just…stays. I made progress on this last year. I’m finding that as my faith grows in strength, worry weakens. When I feel myself worrying about something, I remind myself I’m making …