Pray for our Kids

One snowy morning in a small Pennsylvania town, a high-speed train came thundering down the rails from Boston en route to Washington. It swiftly cut through the cold air reaching speeds upwards of 110 mph. 16-year-old Gina and her best friend, 15-year-old Vanessa, hurried onto the tracks as the speeding train quickly approached. The whistle frantically sounded and the girls didn’t move. They hugged. And that was it.

This morning, I watched as my daughters left for school on their bikes. “Bye daddy!” they yelled as they slowly rode off, their little legs gradually picking up speed. I stood in the driveway. My eyes never left them as they grew smaller and smaller in the distance. I have never loved them more.

Pray for your kids. Pray for mine. They are not yet ready to take on the serious business of life. As they move into more difficult years, their darkness is different from ours. A smudge for you and me is shattered glass to them. A mirror’s whisper can drown out your compliments. Hurtful treatment by a girl at school can wipe clear the self-esteem you’ve helped build. Something we can easily brush off can be the end of their world and in the case of Gina and Vanessa, their lives.

My prayer is that I will be shown ways to help my two beautiful girls become strong, confident young women; that in times of trouble, they will see beyond what is now; that when they enter a room, the room changes; that when they leave that room, someone is touched by their presence.

I cannot do anything about the young girls on those railroad tracks in Pennsylvania. I can’t save them. What I can do is pray for the people who loved them. I can pray for the future of a third friend who was with them on that tragic day and backed out of their suicide pact at the last possible second. I can pray for my children. I can pray for yours.

Will you pray for mine?

  • It is my honor and privilege to pray for your girls Curt. Just as much as it’s a treasure to call you friend. Wonderfully written. 

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Aaron. You’re awesome

  • Mdprincing

    I will if you pray for mine.  I watch Sydney get on the bus each morning and like clock work she will turn, smile at me, wave and blow me a kiss.  Tender moments of love shared by two blessed people who need each other dearly, one to guide and show her the way and truth and one to guide and remind me of the same.

    • Anonymous

      Awesome Matt! All other successes are second to being Dad! 

  • Anonymous

    Beautiful. Super-timely for me as I have 2 teens, one pre and one tiny…they all deal with those mirror whispers already. I find myself in the full time job of having to speak louder than all the other voices in their head, encouraging them, loving them, holding them and affirming truth.  Parenting isn’t for sissies. Pray and let them know you’re praying 😉 Good stuff my friend!

    • Curt Harding

      Thank you Carrie! Don’t stop speaking louder!  

      • par.donahue

        Curt and Carrie, You have to speak softly to be heard in this crazy world. They will listen better, and your voice will be heard “louder than all the voices in their heads.” 

  • Flappin1

    Everyday they are in my prayers!!!!! 

    • Anonymous

      Good Grandma!  

  • Tammi

    Yes I will pray for yours. Thank you for praying for mine.  While visiting Alisha she suggested making a gratitude journal to make a note of 10 things everyday to be grateful for.  She teaches her students that we all need to focus on what’s going well. She says its a wonderful thing. Thanks for the entry.

    • Anonymous

      Just one more reason for me to be proud of you Tammi. Thank you!

  • par.donahue

    Curt, Another great post! Your girls are so lucky to have such a caring father, just like we are lucky to have such a caring friend. All of us friends need to continue to pray for your kids and the kids of each other. Then, remember that you and Polly are without doubt the most influencial people in your kids lives. They will do what you do. Study after study has proven that! Think of peer pressure as an excuse to do what one wants to do when he know it’s wrong. Your girls have learned right from wrong, and want to do what is right. Because they do, be assured that peer pressure is more likely to influence good behavior than bad; it will help them do the right thing even if they don’t want to.
    Have another look at Messengers in Denim for references to the above studies! Enjoy the weekend with your wonderful family, pray, do the right thing, and stay in love with your girls and their mother! 

    • Anonymous

      Thank you Doc Par. That is a compliment coming from you.

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