Stop Sabotaging Your Life

No seriously.
Stop.
Today.
Just decide.
It’s nobody’s else’s fault. It’s your fault.
Fix it.

I made the decision some years ago to do some internal tidying up. I Marie Kondo-ed my life. In case you’ve been living under a rock, Marie is the Japanese cleaning guru who asks the question, “Does it spark joy?” If the answer is “no” then get rid of it. This works for closets, drawers and entire rooms. It will also work for your life. Figuring out what’s cluttering up you is simple if you’re honest. Write it down.

There’s too much drama in my life.
I have hurtful conflicts with people.
I’m married but I cross the line with other women.
I’m broke and I hate my work.
I’m addicted to (fill in the blank).

Do these things spark joy? No?

Stop.
Today.
Just decide.
It’s nobody’s else’s fault. It’s your fault.
Fix it.

God waited until I grew up before He showed me how to Kondo my life. I wish it had been earlier, but that’s in the rear view now. I can tell you this: It was hard. I had to reprogram myself – go against the grain. I wrote out my core principles, my mission statement to live by. I learned that what I feel doesn’t have to be expressed. In fact, what I feel doesn’t necessarily even matter. I had to ask myself if I had my emotions or do they have me? Slowly, over time, the most incredible thing happened: Less clutter cleared the way for more opportunities, more income, stronger friendships – clarity and focus. My life’s picture changed to high definition.

It will not be easy for you either. It may mean a painful break up. It may mean establishing new boundaries with family members. It may mean quitting your job and putting yourself in an entirely new environment. It WILL mean that you change – who you spend your time with, who you “follow,” what you watch, read, and listen to, and how you speak. Your ego will take a hit. You will be humbled. It will require forgiveness of others and of yourself.

Do not wait. You’re forfeiting the things God has for you because you’re sitting in park.

Drive.
Today.
It’s nobody’s else’s fault. It’s your fault.
Fix it.

A hurting world needs you.